You went out on a great date and are so excited and you call your BFF because you are so excited. Finally, I met a great man on Match and I think he was interested in me too. And then you don’t hear from him. What happened? I thought there was a connection, you say to yourself. And this is where dating can get so frustrating. I know how this feels because I had it happen to me too when I was dating. And there can be so many reasons. I would like to explore one reason that you have control over and will feel good about. On your date, start making a heartfelt connection to the man. Ok, I know you are thinking “that sounds weird”. I get it. And it does not mean a heartfelt connection in terms of you are going to fall in love with him. But what it is really about is being totally present with this man in front of you and honoring him for the man he is or isn’t. But what we end up doing to protect ourselves, we guard our heart and have our defenses up and we will judge. And I will tell you that he will sense and feel this. So, it takes being vulnerable and letting go of the past and being totally present in this moment. But I will tell you, if you don’t do this, you will not get a call back. However, if you start making a heart connection with the man in front of you, you increase your odds by tenfold he will call you back. Yes, let me say that again. You will increase your call back by tenfold. And what does this look like when you are on a date to make a heartfelt connection? It is letting go of these conversations: what he looks like, how much money he makes, is he intelligent, is he going to pay the bill, why did he order that, jeez does he brush his hair? When we have that conversation going on, we are not being present or honoring. And this is a practice. First, set the intention before you go out on the date that you are going honor the man in front of you. And be an observer of your thoughts when you are on your date. And when you notice the judgement thoughts, say to yourself, let me connect to my heart and be with this man.
Go out and practice this and let me know how it going. Any questions? Post below or email me at kim@foreverloveformula.com
