All the Good Men Are Taken or There are No Good Men Out There I hear this one a lot and actually something I used to say. So I understand where you are coming from. This was big game changer when I changed my attitude and thoughts about this. First, half of the population in United States is single. There are plenty of good men that got divorced because the relationship simply grew apart or men are widowed or they just did not get married because simply they were not ready yet or have not found the one just like you. I recommend catching yourself when you say “All the Good Men Are Taken” or “There Are No Good Men Out There” to “Wow, there are plenty of single high quality amazing men for me to date and fall in love with”. This is your mantra!!!! And start to look for amazing men in your everyday life.
It is too Much Trouble Dating – Yes, dating takes time and it can get discouraging. I will be the first to admit it. But successful ladies, did you not have to take time to be successful at your career? You had to work at it and put the effort in and you became successful. Same thing in dating. It is a numbers game. And was all of it worth it? You bet cha!!! So, you have to keep that sweet aspiration alive. The prize in front of you. That sweet, amazing and incredible man that you wake up to on a Sunday morning that makes you breakfast. Walking on the beach together on vacation. That man that you can get a big warm hug when you had rough day. It will be all worth your time and effort. And I would like to point out that again how you think about it is the experience you will have. Think about dating as a wonderful experience to just meet different men and have fun while you are in this process. They may not be the one, but look what you could learn from that man in front of you and appreciate him. And if not the one, you move on. Keep simple and don’t over dramatize it.
I don’t meet any interesting men. With clients and even myself when I was in the dating world, we find the charismatic and exciting men to be more interesting than the more conservative men that want to be nice and loyal and great long term partners. The nice, loyal, and long term partners can be fun also. I got one to prove it. And, it took a shift in my perspective and some inner work on me that I found out why I really attracted to those charismatic and exciting men vs the nice men. I would say the nice men were not interesting but deep down I was afraid to be in love and pushed these men away. After realizing this, my priority was to date nice men. And those were the men that showed up in my life. My priorities shifted.
I don’t have time to date – This is a huge one for successful woman. You say you want to be in a relationship and you also say you are too busy to date. You think that is the case, but we make time for what is our priorities in our lives. We make a decision to make anything in our life worth having a priority. It is a conscious choose. We will make the time to go online and setup up coffee dates or we will make the time to go to events to meet men. If you are not making it priority, then you really do not want to find love. And that is ok, if that is really what you want. But is it? Deep down I think you do want love and maybe there could be some hidden blocks. For instance, you might feel that it is not worth it or you think “why bother, I won’t meet anyone” or maybe you just don’t want to get hurt again. I get it. Again, it goes back to your choice in how you think. You have a choice in making this a positive experience in your life and that it will happen. Or you can make the choice it is not worth it and it won’t happen. This is really up to you. You get to choose to have the life that you want. It is just a matter of making that choice and priority.
So Make Sure You are Catching Yourself Saying these sabotaging statements.
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