This is Part 2 to my last news post on a the Top Tip in Finding the Man of Your Dreams. In my last post, I stated it is very important to write down everything you what you want in a man and relationship.
Did you do this exercise?
If not, stop right there and do it! If you don’t start to do things differently, then you are not going to get a different result. And isn’t that what you want, a different result in dating and finding the one?
Also, I find it very interesting how we will spend so much time writing our goals and researching for other items in our life except when it comes for having the man of our dreams in our life. We will spend more time and money buying houses, cars, and investments or even an outfit then spending time on really thinking about who I want to spend the rest of my life with. Hm, I wonder why there is a 60% divorce rate in America. Doesn’t it make sense that we spend some time thinking about what we want for the most important decision that we will make in our life?
Now, If you did do it, Congratulations! You are on your way of finding the man of your dreams. Yea!
This is your intention in finding this man and relationship for YOU. The word intention means: this what we plan to do. We are setting this intention and creating you will have all those items on that list for an amazing man to love forever. However, in order to have all those items, we have to narrow down what are our negotiables and non-negotiables. I know, you are probably saying, now wait a minute, you stated I intend to have all the items on the list. And you can, however, when you first start out in dating, you have to focus on what are the top ones that are important and the others will fall into place by how you communicate and be with the man (I will talk about that in a few minutes on how you can learn that).
So how do we determine which ones are the negotiable vs. non-negotiable?
Non-negotiable – these are the ones on the list that you require to have in order to live with this man and relationship for the rest of your life. So, review each item on the list and ask this question: If I did not have this item and he had everything else on the list, would I be ok living without this in this man for the rest of my life? If you state yes, then it is a negotiable. If you stated no, then it is a non-negotiable. For example: If he had everything else on the list, and he was not really the ambitious type, could you still be with this man? If you state no, then this is non-negotiable. or for example, you had on my list that you did not want a man with a mustache but say he had everything else and you could live with that, then it is negotiable. And let me tell you, that was one of my items. I had on my list that I did not want a man without a mustache, however he had all the non-negotiable so I was willing to be ok with that. And guess what, he know shaves that off. So you can see that is something that is something that is tangible that can change. Those core beliefs, values and characteristics of a man will not, so those are the ones that you want to be non-negotiable.
So next to each item, take time to ask yourself these questions and write Non-Negotiable or Negotiable next to each item.
Stay tune for the next step!
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