You have been dating and continue to meet the men that you don’t like.
Or you meet this really great man and thinking he is for you and all of a sudden you don’t hear from him again.
Or you continually meet men that don’t want a commitment or even worse they are married.
These entire let downs can be so frustrating and sometime even downright depressing.
And you can get so fed up sometimes that you wonder “why bother?”
Or you wonder if there is something wrong with you and if you are going to spend the rest of your life alone.
I know I have been there. And if I would bought into all that “story telling” to myself I would be still single.
Now I am not saying that you are not allowed to have these feelings.
You are. Dont ever push your feeling down or trying to push them aside.
Your feeling are your feelings. Acknowledge them. And it does not mean that you have to react to them.
It means I have these emotions and I feel them and I am not going to buy into them.
That is number one advice for how not to give up in having love. And it is a good practice not to be reactive.
Now here are some areas that helped me and could help you also:
Perseverance and Learning: I kept putting into place what needed to be put into place. I kept at learning about myself, men, and relationships. I was open to learning more and not continue to do the same thing and expecting a different result. Something had to change and I was the only one that could change. This included looking at the thoughts and beliefs I had with myself, men and relationships. Your thoughts and beliefs create habits in your life and the people you will attract. If your thoughts are: “There are no good men out there.” Or “This does not work for me.” Or “I will probably be alone for the rest of my life” or “I will have to settle” then that will be true because that is what you believe. We have a choice to change our thoughts and beliefs to: “There are Good Men Out There,” or “I will meet the One,” or “I am attracting a great man to love.” The more you do this, the more you will start to attract quality men and the One
Positive Supportive People – I did have a coach to be supportive, encouraging and point out areas that could be holding me back that I did not see. Also, having supportive positive friends. Remember to be careful that you are not around women that are constantly negative about men and dating and relationships
Courage and Action: If you quit and give up, you will never meet the one. However, if you do continue to date and keep trying, you have the possibility of meeting the one. It takes courage to continue and get back on the horse per se. Nothing is accomplished without courage and action. You are not going to meet the one staying home. Get your courage on! We all have fears and disappointments and the most successful people are the ones that draw on their courage and continue to be action in the face of fear and disappointments.
Loving Myself and Being Kind to Me: Be kind to yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for one minute that a date or relationship did not work out or you feel alone. This will only make it worse in attracting a man. There is nothing wrong with you. You are beautiful woman on her quest for love and will not settle for nothing less. You deserve it. Get yourself a massage or hot bath, pray, or take a walk to renew you and think positive thoughts about yourself.
There are a few things that can help you to keep your head high and your chin up in finding forever love with your amazing man.
Let me know what you think!
If you would like to learn more about my Forever Love Formula where women are dating higher quality men, getting engaged and having happy and fulfilling marriages, email me back and we will setup a time to chat.
Hugs
Kim Quick